After the open house rounds of sorority recruitment, women interested in joining a sorority have some tough choices to make. Deciding which chapters to revisit, figuring out where a woman feels at home, and whether or not a prospective sorority member even wants to join a sorority can create even more stress, on top of the week’s events, classes, homework, and other obligations. Sometimes, women going through recruitment may find that, for some reason, they do not want to join a sorority or are unable to and drop out of the process and may consider joining a sorority through informal recruitment.
For women who continue with formal recruitment, the invitation rounds are a chance for prospective sorority members to get to know affiliated women and sorority chapters better and to help make decisions regarding membership in chapters to which they revisit during these rounds.
Conversation Topics for the Invitational Rounds of Sorority Recruitment
By the time a potential new member has reached the invitational rounds of sorority recruitment, they probably already know the basic information about each chapter – their philanthropy, their traditions, and other details about each organization. Something between the potential new member and members of the chapter has clicked, whether it was believing in the same cause or enjoying the same hobbies, and the potential new member has been invited back.
Now is the time for prospective new members to figure out why they are considering these chapters and what makes them unique. Listening to the reasons why a sorority woman chose to join her chapter, how she feels about her sisterhood, and getting to know chapter members on a more personal basis can help a prospective sorority woman determine whether or not she feels comfortable with a particular group, and if she would consider joining any of these organizations.
More importantly, women going through recruitment should not be afraid to open up and allow chapter members, and other women going through recruitment with them, to get to know them as genuine individuals. Putting up a front, being closed off, showing disinterest, or trying to portray a personality that is not genuine sends the wrong messages, and may cause a chapter to believe that she is not interested in the chapter anymore. This can cause a woman to not be invited back to a chapter she really likes, or not be invited back to preference parties and be considered dropped from sorority recruitment.
Questions to Ask During Sorority Recruitment
At this point, prospective sorority women should be trying to get an idea of the bigger picture and trying to figure out what it is that each chapter has to offer its members, and whether or not this is what she is looking for in a sorority. For those who are trying to dig a little deeper, questions should go beyond the basics about each chapter, mostly because prospective sorority women have probably already been given basic information.
For women who are the first in their families to join a fraternity or a sorority or who may not be receiving support from friends at home, family, or boyfriends when it comes to joining a sorority, asking chapter members about their experiences during this time can help potential new members not only feel at ease about making the decision, but also help to reassure them that they are not the only ones who are or have been through this with family and friends. Additionally, sorority legacies may meet women who are legacies, or daughters, granddaughters, or nieces of an alumna member, and who may have joined an organization different from their relative’s and find out how they dealt with joining a chapter different from their family member’s.
Ultimately, women should not be afraid of digging deeper when it comes to getting to know each chapter. While it takes years to learn about the dynamics and history of an organization, knowing as much about a chapter, its members, and how the members share their sisterhood can help potential new members make a decision that is best for them.